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Five Reasons To Stay Away From Toxic People

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Blogmas: Day 5

Toxic people are the must non-haves in your life if you need to live a healthy life. I know, sometimes we think it’s better to not lose hope in somebody or give them a second chance but toxic people do not deserve your time, period.

Having trouble letting go, toxic people? Do not worry, I am here with five reasons which can help you in solidifying your decision to stay away from them.

You attract negative energy

Have you ever realised how down you feel when you are with some people? It’s because their negative energy is invading your space and making you a negative person in general. You won’t even realise the damage till it becomes irreparable.

You become pessimistic

Can you give up your optimistic life to be with someone because you think they still have a chance of improvement? You become very whiny and start pointing out everything that is wrong with your life rather than being thankful for what you have.

Your perspective minimises

Being with toxic people could minimise your perspective too much that the only things you could think about are the possible failures and mishaps. The universe reflects what you think and if you are thinking about failures then, that is what you are going to get. It is as simple as that.

You start questioning the love you have

This is the saddest thing in the world! To question those who love you, thinking about the hidden agenda behind the love that they show you. But you have to keep in mind, good people are rare and difficult to find. Is it sanity to lose the good things in your life over the negative things?

You stop being a loving person

This is the nightmare kind of situation, it is like losing your identity by the influence of others. My mother once told me that being a good and loving person is the most difficult job in the world and most likely to be given up for the easy things like being selfish and bad. It is your call who you want to be and with whom do you want to be surrounded!

I know letting a person go is easier said than done. We think people might get better and change but in that process the only person who changes and becomes worse is us. It is a vicious cycle if you get stuck once. I was once friends with this person who was the perfect definition of a toxic person and I realised it after almost two years when a lot of damage was done. And when you are that forward into the loop, it makes you feel disgusted about yourself, which is not the best feeling in the world.

But, I let the person go and you can do it, too!

Photo by Clem Onojeghuo
Photo by Cristian Newman

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12 replies »

  1. Beautiful post! The hardest thing for me to do is realize I cannot fix anybody but myself. I am 52 years old and I still get stuck on that. I want to help people, I want to make them better. I end up getting sucked dry emotionally. Breaking the vicious cycle is the critical step!

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    • I think sometimes we need to be a little more concerned about our personal growth and development. Some people are not meant to be helped by us, but you are a lot wiser than me and understand the relationships and people better than me. But what I do know is that it feels disgusting to be emotionally exhausted due to someone who never cared about me in the first place.

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  2. Very nice and inspiring post. We all come across such negative person in our lives and though we know deep inside what damage they are causing to us, it’s still difficult to get out of their clutch
    Fighting against negativity in the life is one of the most toughest and most rewarding things to do. I hope your post instill this feeling in more readers who come across this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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  3. Thank you for liking, “Name’s Cole…Morty Cole.” I suppose you might find Morty a toxic person. He’s certainly not a nice guy. But knowing such people and their motives makes for interesting writing. Fiction being less threatening than reality, it is possible to benefit and learn from Morty’s point of view and life lessons without having to endure his company. Thanks again, Keith

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